KNOWING YOUR SELF WORTH + 4 WAYS TO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT.

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Even the best of us are susceptible to moments of self-doubt, especially when it comes to our image.
There's a tendency to attribute self worth to how you look, and I'm especially guilty of this. So today I want to share my thoughts on showing yourself a little more self-love, and feeling more confident in yourself, regardless of appearance.



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My weight has crept up over the last few years, causing any confidence and self love I had in myself to plummet. And even though I've lost a little weight here and there, the feelings of ??? seem to persist now, no matter how I look, because I've just got myself into that mindset - I'm sure there are some of you out there that can relate with me here? Sure, there are things I can change, but I want to address the cognitive aspect that this negativity stems from. I've got to a point where I don't want how I feel to be so affected by my body. I don't want a 'good-scale-day' to dictate my happiness. I want to feel happier in myself no matter what size or weight I am, how many wrinkles I have, my face isn't symmetrical, or whatever.. Keep reading for my 3 tips..


ACKNOWLEDGE VALUE IN YOURSELF, BEYOND YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE


You are more than just your body. Although that's the part that's more evident, it's just one in many. Your heart, your soul, your ideas, your thoughts, your actions, beliefs, morals and your potential, are just some of the things we can't see, but I feel define us as a whole, much more than our appearance. They're often aspects we can look upon much more kindly too. I find it difficult to look at myself and compliment a physical feature, or genuinely love what I'm seeing, but I find it a lot easier to agree that I'm a kind person, a genuine or generous person, that I'm intelligent and educated. Knowing that there's so much more to you than your body, and finding the value in those other parts helps in building your confidence and self love.


MAKE DECISIONS + CHOICES THAT MAGNIFY WHO YOU ARE


Whether it's improving your eating to better reflect the energy you have inside, or making changes towards your outlook on life, make every small decision, one that better represents you. 

Do more of the things that make you feel more you, more happy and healthy, both physically and mentally. I've been embracing slow living this year and I can't tell you what good it does for my wellbeing, in fact, I'll link some posts below that you might find helpful too.


Seek out and surround yourself with people that harmonise with your values and attributes, and ditch those who cause you internal conflict, those that have nothing to offer but critique, or that want to create competition. I talked not so long ago about losing motivation and inspiration with blogging, and I mentioned, I think those feelings are more accurately described by my blog feeling less like me. And that discrepancy has led me to feel negatively towards it. It's a similar situation here. I think the best environment to cultivate confidence and self love is one in which we're happiest, and most allowed to be ourselves. 

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BE DECISIVE OF YOUR MORALS + VALUES


One thing that can really knock our confidence is criticism, or even just the anticipation of criticism. 

I think those who are genuinely confident, and love themselves, have a good hold on who they are as beings. Think about that enviously confident person in your lives (we all have one!) you know, your high flying, empowered boss at work or a friend of a friend etc, you can sense their certainty right? I certainly can with mine! 

Figuring out what you genuinely believe in, what your values and morals are, and what you think is right and wrong, what you want, and what you deem important, helps when considering criticism. It's easier to rationalise out hurtful comments for example, and justify that the problem lies with them and not you, rather than worry about how you're not good enough in some way. We all know that haters only hate themselves after all.

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STAY IN YOUR OWN LANE


Comparison is the thief of joy, a phrase I'm sure we're all well accustomed with. It's comparing myself to others I see, particularly on the internet, that can make me feel really low about myself, thinking their appearance, for example, is so much better than my own.

I'm not saying that this is easy, but try to redirect that comparative nature back to yourself. Compare how you are now, with how you used to be, and how you could be. How far have you come? What steps have you made and have they worked? What could you do to improve? Everyone deserves the chance to be happy in their own skin and I think that comparing yourself to some of the pseudo-reality on the internet can be so demoralising, especially when you're viewing a curated snippet of someone's lives. I might talk more about this in a separate post because I think I have a quite a bit to say, so let me know if you'd like to see that!

'Your value doesn't decrease based one's inability to see your worth. It lies with you.'

I hope you've found some little piece of this post helpful or useful in some way, we're all beautiful, and we need more reminders of that! I'd love to hear your take in the comments too :)



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8 comments

  1. What a beautiful, inspirational post Jennifer! Loved every single bit of it. I agree about staying in your own lane - something I am still learning to do. Thank you for sharing this!


    Naya // www.partyparrotblog.com

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    1. I'm so glad you enjoyed Naya, thank you for commenting! xx

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  2. Thanks for sharing this post Jennifer, it's hard to feel confident when you're not always 'happy' with what you see in the mirror. My skin has always been an issue for me but I've learnt to accept the skin I'm in literally! We got to be happy and grateful for everything that we have, despite what we see other people have :)

    Hanh | hanhabelle

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    1. I completely agree with you lovely, I'm so glad you feel better about yourself now :) xx

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  3. Great post. Really enjoyed it. Comparison is the thief of joy, and something I try to be conscious of at all times. X

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    1. I'm so glad you enjoyed reading Antonia, it's hard to remember but the results are worth it xx

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  4. I just loved this post! I love your beauty posts but those personal ones really get me :)

    xx Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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    1. Aw thanks lovely, I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for such sweet words :) xx

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